Family are the friends that we can’t choose. There may be personality differences, strong opinions and sibling rivalries to consider.

One of the questions I ask all of my clients is to tell me about their families. The relationships and dynamics with parents and siblings and where they come in the order of births. All of this can be very significant and revealing.

Disagreements and feuds can stem from long-held agendas; feelings of being wronged or treated unfairly. This can lead to deep resentment and a build up of frustration and mistrust.

Just because we are one family does not mean that we will automatically get on with each other. And, sometimes, families that have been incredibly close can have a major feud which can create deep heartache and a devastating ripple effect.

Sometimes it can be major life events that cause these such as divorce, a birth or wedding. The death of a member of the family can be a catalyst for a feud to develop. The person who was perhaps the mediator and the voice of calm in a family is no longer there and the grief creates anger which can then lead to a breakdown in relationships.

Disagreements over money or possessions, feelings of being wronged and bitterness over things that may have happened in the past can re-surface and cause a family to start fighting. The fall out from this can lead to a breakdown in communication and a parting of the ways. The knock-on effect of all of this can feel like another bereavement and create feelings of loneliness and sadness for all those involved.

When we consider the enormous impact this can have and the negative view it creates for the younger members of a family, it can feel like an insurmountable challenge to try and fix it. For some, anger, pride and a lack of trust will prevent any chance of a reconciliation. However, a trained professional can help you to navigate the choppy waters and help you to find a new perspective and resolutions.

All of this can take time and energy. It involves setting realistic expectations, taking responsibility, empathy, listening without judgement and being prepared to communicate.

It is complex, but hypnotherapy can help you to support yourself and find a way forward that feels right for you. Also if there are “flash-point” memories that still trigger you, BWRT® can help to minimise the effect of these.

If any of this resonates, then please do get in touch for a free 15 minute chat and then we can fix up an online appointment for you.